No this is not the PCD song…it’s the soundtrack to my life. Let me explain, I’ve always been a driven person with a life plan, short, medium and long term goals. I’ve said this once I’ll prolly say it a 1000 times more I wanted to be a doctor, married with 2 kids and one on the way by age 24. I guess a clue to the faultiness of that reasoning was the fact that I also wanted to live in a house painted with crayon.
Do I have a witness though that life rarely happens the way you plan? I mean I was talking to my dad last night and he couldn’t believe I was gonna be 26 this year. Yeah Dad I can’t believe it either *eyes roll* where did all the years go?? One minute you’re in high school the next you’re an adult, playing dress up every morning and trying your best to sound intelligent. It’s a tough life I tell you, I mean some of my friends are planning and running their own businesses, some of them have kids #cue the sound of crickets…
So then I look around me and I say looks like its time for me to get married, settle down…a brief aside if you will…what does the term settle down mean? Why must you settle? And why must it be down? Yes I’m random I know, but I’ve accepted me so I encourage you to do the same.
As I was saying, so next step in the life plan looks like it’s to get married and have kids. Only problem though is as much as I love kids I can’t stand screaming, ill mannered children. You know the ones I’m talking about…yes on the bus or train or at a quiet gathering. The ones that throw tantrums, fits and food. The ones that tell their mother to shut up #once again cue crickets…
As my mother would say ‘Unless I did not give birth to you…say what you said again’ followed by ‘I brought you into this world…I can take you out’. Yes my mother has always been eloquent. That is why I am sure I was such a well behaved child, loveable and what not. It is therefore safe to assume that my offspring will be the same. However will I now have my well behaved offspring associating with above mentioned screaming kids? Here’s hoping that all my mates would have plenty monies so we can build a school and community for all our children and they can live a fulfilling well behaved life. Either that or I’m homeschooling those kids…enough said.
Point 2, when you ‘settle down’ and have kids, travelling around the world becomes a pipe dream or a very expensive nightmare…your choice. My colleague just told me that it’s gonna cost £3,500 for his family to go on holiday this year and that’s on a budget #if you’re tired of crickets, cue the sound of frogs…
Are you kinda getting my drift? I’m not saying I want to travel all over the world but I think I would like to see more of the UK for example or Africa and since I’m going all out lets throw in Europe as well. Woohoo living on the wild side yezzirrr
To summarize this gist, growing up is over rated. Its not more money more problems, it’s growing up more problems. Ah ah wasn’t it just a few [ok maybe more than a few] years ago when my biggest problem in life was the fact that my mother wanted me to wear an ‘Aunty Gimme Cake’ dress for my 10th birthday? So can somebody please tell me WHEN I started paying bills? Contemplating businesses and angling for promotions?
*Shakes my head*, guys be careful what you wish for…
GlamTings 
Neefemi
April 9, 2010
i’m on a roll today ain’t i? lol….anyhoo
i had this same conversation with a guy i like yday…..we had said how his mates were done with giving birth to kids at his age (28)… i had told him, well one i wouldn’t have met him if he was already married :), and how he couldn’t do a lot of things e.g like you said travel, just cos u feel like and like i told him, kids are expensive….i think he thought about it for a minute & felt sad about it…but he knew i was right….my point being tho its ok to have set all them goals, there shouldn’t be disappointment that you haven’t met them.. just a understanding that you are older and wiser, dreams change, you will get there and settling(diff from settling down, lol) is not an option
gosh i talk too much #kthanksbye
glamtings
April 9, 2010
Lol this is gonna be a game between us i can tell. I hear what your saying however im not advocating focussing on careers and neglecting other parts of life. Just that when people ‘settle down’ its not because they are following the crowd but cos for them the time is right.
Thanks for blessing us with your comments x
Tayo
April 9, 2010
lmao @ the irony. so while, i’m reading this article, Jay goes “mommy I want a brother”. i’m starting to hear this too frequently, too. I have a headache now. lol~
tara
April 9, 2010
this is all too interesting lol
glamtings
April 9, 2010
@Tayo lol Jay didnt get the memo that its a girl next? lol sorry bout the headache he he
@tara what is interesting to you? lol
ItisI
April 12, 2010
I can’t deal…..I just can’t.
I haven’t mastered myself, let alone any mini-me. You nailed it, growing up really is over rated especially when some people firmly believe it’s their divine right to ask you for husband & grandchild [I wont mention any names *cough* mum *cough*]
This is why I’ve been the same age for a few years – 21.
D R A M A
May 17, 2010
“Delicious writing!” — I love it!!