There are two types of men: we have the nice guys on one side and we have the Attitude boiz on the other. Now the Nice guys are characterised by sensitivity, they are quick to apologise, needy, very polite, they smile and laugh a lot (even when and especially when nothing is funny)…they also get nervous easily and they tend to sweat when they do, they are not gay, but they are getting there (lolz..im kidding). The attitude boys on the other hand associate sensitivity with PMS, the word sorry makes them cringe, they have manners but they left them in their other pair of jeans and they only smile when uve earned it.
Now this article is directed at the nice guys from the introduction you might have been able to deduce where I stand. Many of you are well acquainted with rejection, and you can’t seem to understand why she didn’t fall into your waiting plaid encrusted arms. You also wonder, it BUGS you why the one who barely appears interested in the girl – (the attitude boy)… is usually the one who gets the girl?
So if you are a nice guy and what im saying strikes a little too close to home, then put away that romance novel, dry your eyes, pull up a chair and listen up.
Have you suffered from hearing the words, “You’re a really nice guy, but I only like you as a friend,” …*it stings doesn’t it!*…from a woman who you would do (or may, in fact, have already done) just about anything and everything for — ……only to turn around and watch her date (or even chase) a guy who treats her like she’s nothing special?
a.k.a attitude boy…..
*i hope you’re following*….
And are you stumped wondering why she would date a guy who treats her like that when she could have you who would treat her like a princess and give her everything she wants? …
Better brace yourself because im about to smack u across the back of your head with some knowedge.
First, “nice” equates with boring and predictable.
…pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory…
A.K.A….average — -not exceptional, not exciting, and not sexy. ..Except for the satisfactory part, but we all know if a girl is satisfied
I’m sure you’ve never heard a woman say she didn’t want to date a guy because he was too confident, too passionate, or too exciting — have you?
Oh you have??
Well that babe turned out to be an anti social manic depressive serial killer…so she doesn’t count..
But, I’ll bet you have heard women say things like, “He’s such a nice guy. He’s so sweet and he’s always there for me, but I only like him as a friend.
*BUMMER*…meanwhile every time she turns or is close to you, you take the opportunity to smell her hair …
” Or, “He’s such a good guy — kind, thoughtful, generous, honest, loyal — but there’s no chemistry. He just doesn’t turn me on.”
….meanwhile you’re so horny for her…Evrytime you Hug …you “dont sleep well at night”…lolz
Sadly, I hear it all the time. The fact is, Mr. Nice Guy, *Yes U*
you cannot bore a woman into feeling attracted to you or into wanting to date you.
And as obvious as that sounds, if you are one of those guys I described that is exactly what you are trying to do. And it won’t work. You hear me??!!
MR slimy…Mr Shoulder to cry on….MR always there when you call…MR BFF…MR ’your man is just a Jerk..MR random texts in d middle of the night….MR always there in the background looking for an opening…Mr Snitch…Mr poser…yes…YOU…Truth is …You need a new game plan
What Im saying is that you value and respect yourself more.
Become the prize…Act like a man nucca…Grow some nuts…
She won’t. She can’t…She doesn’t
once you need something, or you want it too badly, you forfeit your strength and lose all power of negotiation. ..
You are in a position of weakness and you are perceived as weak.
Someone (or something) else is in control of you…
the situation, and its outcome.
Men in this situation appear to be anything but confident, strong, and exciting. More, they are perceived as being unworthy and as lacking value.
BOYS n GIRLS…gather round n listen UP!
How? He never invests everything — his entire being, ego, and self-worth in what one woman’s response or reaction to him is.
He doesn’t gush with compliments; he isn’t always available; he doesn’t give too much; and he knows he isn’t going to die if a woman says “no” to him.
I’ll say it again…
he knows he isn’t going to die if a woman says “no” to him.
for example:
Lissen yeah, I’d like to go out with you, but if I can’t, that’s OK — I’m a busy guy, with exciting things going on, and lots of other options.*saying this while I’m on the phone *..Hold on a sec’…
ryu gettin me?
You don’t have to thank me, take this knowledge and do something interesting with it.
Adonis
Nosa...
August 21, 2009
Yeah, while i can agree that most GIRLS like the bad boy…most WOMEN end up with a nice guy. When i was younger, the bad boys were HOT HOT HOT…but now that I am grown and know what exactly it is i want…the unavailable guy isnt all that interesting. No WOMAN wants a man, who is still afraid to ‘invest’ in a relationship with her, because hes an ‘attitude guy’!! Why would a grown ass woman still be searching for the guy who will never pay her compliments?? I say keep your attitude to yourself and let me be with the guy who wants to be with me, the guy who’ll tell me im beautiful, and all o dat. Attitude boys only bring DRAMA and insecurity and frankly im too old and confident(mhm) for all o dat!
Nice boys might sleep alone now, but not for long!!
I’mm
Nosa...
August 21, 2009
i’m done i meant to say!! heehee
inneresting piece tho
Mighty
August 21, 2009
I agree with Nosa a guy who cant invest in a relationship is a waste of time he should go take his attitude n shove it. Gimme a nice guy anyday…wastemen need not apply
x
Monday's Child
August 21, 2009
this is true, really… whether or not we females like to admit it. there’s nothing that can get me over my admiration for a guy faster than having him be overly solicitous, available or eager. And like you said, why would i want to commit to mr (over)nice guy if he already does everything i might possibly want in a mate? i might as well just eat my cake and have it by getting the niceties from him(as a friend, of course) and pursuing or enjoying the pursuit of interesting Mr Attitude.
I should point out also that just as nice guys sleep alone, nice girls do too- eventually. They (nice girls) may get guys to bend their bodies all shapes of the alphabet but when it comes to getting someone to make a committment, being too available or too loving or self sacrificing works against you.
Here’s to being the prize! Always.
Anonymous
August 21, 2009
I was gonna come in here and give y’all some real knowledge BUT Nosa already said it very eloquently and better than I would have at this point.
Lets be honest here, we’re not 16 anymore, if you are a WOMAN & what you’re looking for is ‘attitude boi’ then I worry for you really.
If you crave the attitude boi aka wasteman, go right ahead. I will only SMH & SNM about this.
I thought it was a female who wrote this and I was truly saddened by that until I realised half way through that it was an ‘attitude boi’ lol. The only attitude boiz I know at this point are my 16 year old cousin & his mandem lol…
Anonymous
August 21, 2009
P.S @ Monday’s Child… the attitude boi doesnt eva see you as the prize but yet you pine over him? aint that an oxymoron???
talitha
August 21, 2009
There’s some truth in what you write but I guess it all boils down to self-esteem issues for both the men and women…..
tarique
August 22, 2009
Take it from a dude who used to be an ‘attitude boi’ (circa before I had to man UP), there’s no truth to anything here. Yes attitude boiz get the girl pining after them but we treat you like shit and a real woman would never stand for that. Attitude boiz r typical wastemen plain & simple. I’m disappointed at this article to be very honest. Ayohla I’ll be having a word for sure.
Anonymus
August 22, 2009
disappointed in the article as well
could be better.
anonymous
August 22, 2009
So IMPOILTE men are now desirable? I am offended that you have the gutts to teach other perfectly good men to be douchebags really! Being quick to apologise is actually a good trait fYI!!!
Of course, no woman wants a wimp but there has to be balance!!
Anonymous
August 23, 2009
Total bullshit……could.t even finish reading it……..Man Up
Ayohla
August 23, 2009
*Cough Cough* Tarique excuse you! Thanks for the call though lol!
FYI @ every other person asking, I didn’t write this drivel, it says Adonis on the end there.
Monday's Child
August 25, 2009
ok, go on and pretend.
we all know we like the idea of liking the nice guy but it rarely happens that he’s the one who has that X factor that so much appeals to us. everyone knows that attitude boys can be a pain but here we arent talking about the beaters or batterers or put-downers, only of a man who is is conscious of his own worth. And i’ll quote the writer of the piece who said “Please understand that I am not suggesting that you mistreat women or disrespect them in any way”.
If we ask any girl who doesnt like a confident man to raise a hand, we can probably count them all on the fingers of one hand.
Anyway to all those who are so smitten with mister, eager, panting, available nice guy- when next you are trying to avoid that looney love-struck stalker of yours, tell yourself in his defence that he is only acting like that because he sees you as his prize and take time out to enjoy the attention.