Nice Guys Sleep Alone

Posted on August 21, 2009


There are two types of men: we have the nice guys on one side and we have the Attitude boiz on the other. Now the Nice guys are characterised by sensitivity, they are quick to apologise, needy, very polite, they smile and laugh a lot (even when and especially when nothing is funny)…they also get nervous easily and they tend to sweat when they do, they are not gay, but they are getting there ( kidding).  The attitude boys on the other hand associate sensitivity with PMS, the word sorry makes them cringe, they have manners but they left them in their other pair of jeans and they only smile when uve earned it.


Now this article is directed at the nice guys from the introduction you might have been able to deduce where I stand. Many of you are well acquainted with rejection, and you can’t seem to understand why she didn’t fall into your waiting plaid encrusted arms. You also wonder, it BUGS you why the one who barely appears interested in the girl – (the attitude boy)… is usually the one who gets the girl?

So if you are a nice guy and what im saying strikes a little too close to home, then put away that romance novel, dry your eyes, pull up a chair and listen up.

Have you suffered from hearing the words, “You’re a really nice guy, but I only like you as a friend,” …*it stings doesn’t it!*…from a woman who you would do (or may, in fact, have already done) just about anything and everything for — ……only to turn around and watch her date (or even chase) a guy who treats her like she’s nothing special?
a.k.a attitude boy…..

*i hope you’re following*….

And are you stumped wondering why she would date a guy who treats her like that when she could have you who would treat her like a princess and give her everything she wants? …

Better brace yourself because im about to smack u across the back of your head with some knowedge.


First, “nice” equates with boring and predictable.

…pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory…
A.K.A….average — -not exceptional, not exciting, and not sexy. ..Except for the satisfactory part, but we all know if a girl is satisfied

I’m sure you’ve never heard a woman say she didn’t want to date a guy because he was too confident, too passionate, or too exciting — have you?

Oh you have??
Well that babe turned out to be an anti social manic depressive serial killer…so she doesn’t count..

But, I’ll bet you have heard women say things like, “He’s such a nice guy. He’s so sweet and he’s always there for me, but I only like him as a friend.

*BUMMER*…meanwhile every time she turns or is close to you, you take the opportunity to smell her hair …

” Or, “He’s such a good guy — kind, thoughtful, generous, honest, loyal — but there’s no chemistry. He just doesn’t turn me on.”

….meanwhile you’re so horny for her…Evrytime you Hug …you “dont sleep well at night”…lolz

Sadly, I hear it all the time. The fact is, Mr. Nice Guy, *Yes U*
you cannot bore a woman into feeling attracted to you or into wanting to date you.
And as obvious as that sounds, if you are one of those guys I described that is exactly what you are trying to do. And it won’t work. You hear me??!!

MR slimy…Mr Shoulder to cry on….MR always there when you call…MR BFF…MR ’your man is just a Jerk..MR random texts in d middle of the night….MR always there in the background looking for an opening…Mr Snitch…Mr poser…yes…YOU…Truth is …You need a new game plan

Please understand that I am not suggesting that you mistreat women or disrespect them in any way. No…
What Im saying is that you value and respect yourself more.
Become the prize…Act like a man nucca…Grow some nuts…
The answer to the question, “Why does the guy who doesn’t appear to care as much about the girl get the girl?” is simple: The nice guy cares too much, too soon. He has made the woman too important and too valuable and it shows in everything he says and does. He is too available, too eager to please, too accommodating, and he gives too much — all without getting anything in return. By doing so, he has made himself appear desperate, insecure, needy of this woman’s attention, affection, and approval — and he has stripped himself of any value in her eyes
After all, if he’s already doing and giving everything, without her doing or giving anything – why would she value him?
She won’t. She can’t…She doesn’t
She is not going to value him any more than he values himself. What she is going to do is look for someone else (ME), someone who she perceives as being more worthy (still me), more confident (*yawn*…me), and more valuable (moi).


Truth is;
 once you need something, or you want it too badly, you forfeit your strength and lose all power of negotiation. ..
You are in a position of weakness and you are perceived as weak.
Someone (or something) else is in control of you…
the situation, and its outcome.
Men in this situation appear to be anything but confident, strong, and exciting. More, they are perceived as being unworthy and as lacking value.
Everything I have just said can be summarised by this statement


BOYS n GIRLS…gather round n listen UP!
*drumroll please*
Things that are easily acquired, obtained, or maintained, without any effort or sacrifice, lack value… it’s human nature.
The secret to why the cocky guy wins with women, over the nice guy, is that he is perceived as being a stronger, more confident guy with more value.
How? He never invests everything — his entire being, ego, and self-worth in what one woman’s response or reaction to him is.
He doesn’t gush with compliments; he isn’t always available; he doesn’t give too much; and he knows he isn’t going to die if a woman says “no” to him.
*did you hear that??*
I’ll say it again…

he knows he isn’t going to die if a woman says “no” to him.

for example:
Lissen yeah, I’d like to go out with you, but if I can’t, that’s OK — I’m a busy guy, with exciting things going on, and lots of other options.*saying this while I’m on the phone *..Hold on a sec’…

ryu gettin me?






You don’t have to thank me, take this knowledge and do something interesting with it.


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